A. Never. People around me are supportive and aware.

B. Occasionally, but I try not to mention it—it's my private struggle.

C. Often. I feel like I'm grieving entirely in private.

D. Always. I feel completely misunderstood or dismissed.

A. Peaceful; I have accepted the change and am moving forward.

B. A familiar, low-level ache that never fully leaves me.

C. Overwhelmed; my emotions often feel out of control and too big to handle.

D. Disconnected; the entire experience feels abstract or distant.

A. I maintain my routines easily, though it takes focus.

B. It causes long-term disruption that has become the "new normal" I live with.

C. It results in intense, temporary periods of functional shutdown.

D. It doesn't directly impact my function, but it drains my energy for everything else.

A. They have no idea; I present myself as fine.

B. They might sense a quiet sadness, but they don't know the cause or depth.

C. It's visible; my struggle or frustration often surfaces publicly.

D. It’s completely invisible because the source of my loss is not easily defined.

A. A life or future that you can now clearly see ahead.

B. The constant effort required just to keep moving forward every single day.

C. The sheer intensity of the emotion that feels too big and overwhelming to contain.

D. Losses experienced by people you care about, absorbing their pain as your own.

A. No, my reaction seems appropriate and manageable.

B. Yes, it feels unusually prolonged and entrenched—I can’t shake it.

C. Yes, it feels exaggerated, and I sometimes worry about its intensity.

D. No, because my loss is one that others don't view as significant or valid.

A. Are successfully left behind as I progress.

B. Return consistently, making it feel like I’m reliving the same loop.

C. Erupt suddenly and forcefully, pulling me backward into despair.

D. Remain suppressed, only appearing as general stress or physical discomfort.

A. Rarely or never.

B. Less now, but a perpetual sadness is always present.

C. Frequently; these reactions often feel beyond my control.

D. I repress these feelings, so they only surface privately or indirectly.

A. I openly share my experience and feelings with them.

B. They know the event happened, but not the depth of my ongoing struggle.

C. They know I'm struggling because my reactions are often dramatic or noticeable.

D. They only know if they press me; otherwise, I avoid the topic entirely.

A. Not at all. My focus is on my personal healing.

B. It's related to a prolonged, chronic disconnect in a key relationship.

C. The conflict and drama surrounding the loss were the worst part of the experience.

D. Yes, it feels tied to a shared, community, or public tragedy.

A. Resilient and well-adjusted.

B. A dedicated survivor, but perhaps a bit guarded or tired.

C. Emotional, volatile, or overly focused on the past.

D. Strong, private, or perhaps sometimes distant.

A. I have faith that it will eventually find its resolution.

B. This worry is a constant background hum in my life.

C. The thought of it ending feels terrifying or impossible.

D. I don't focus on concluding it; I just focus on managing the daily impact.

A. A brief moment of sadness, then I successfully redirect my focus.

B. I fall into an expected pattern of sadness or withdrawal that lasts for days.

C. I react with an intense emotional outburst or overwhelming panic.

D. I instinctively shut down the emotion and continue with what I was doing.

A. This doesn't apply to my loss; it was a major, defined event.

B. My loss is recognized, but my constant level of feeling is not.

C. My loss is highly recognized, and my emotions match the scale.

D. Yes, my pain is often dismissed because the source is abstract or unique to me.

A. Seek active connection and constructive support.

B. Keep repeating the same patterns, hoping for a different result one day.

C. Engage in excessive behaviors (e.g., overworking, overspending, overeating).

D. Strive to appear completely normal and competent on the outside at all times.